Tuesday, December 4, 2012

My Surrogate Life: my perception of a miracle part 7


On March 31, 2003 Missy and I woke up in our hotel room and got ready for the big day at CCRM. It was also my birthday eve. Yes.....you are correct.....my birthday is April 1st...better know as April Fool's Day (I know, it explains a lot!!!). And believe you me, if there is one thing I believe in it is the celebration of the day of my birth (I think this stems from the fact that I am the youngest of 5 kids and our birthdays were a big deal).

So we got in our rental car (which I failed to previously mentioned was powered by a wound up rubber band I do believe) and slowly headed to the clinic. Eventually we made it (yet another miracle) and began a intensive day. They began the testing and it went on and on. Along with all the physical test, I had to take the personality test thing. It was a test of about 500 questions that basically asked the same thing , but just in VERY bizarre ways. One such question was something like " have you ever really liked your good friends shoes and had a little man's voice in your had that said take them, so you stoled them from your friend's closet?" REALLY???? Surely no one has ever answered yes to that question......I then had to met with the shrink. She was trying to be all vague and shrinky like and I said " Look....lets just cut to the chase...I'm  really not that deep...what you see is really what get.....l love my friend, I love my kids and I want my BFF to experience the amazing joy (and yes, sometimes incredible frustration and pain) of  being a parent.....the end".  She was so shocked that she didn't even write anything on her pad. She just looked at me and said "OK, we are all set!" I was the sent to the waiting room and awaited my next hurdle!!!

 Next, I was then told to drink water (which is quite foreign to me because I only drink diet coke) and more water and more water because my bladder needed to be as full as possible in order to get an accurate ultra sound. Those of you who know me know that if I decide to something, than I am going to go all out and do it well....and this was no exception. So, I drank about 3 gallons of water and was ready for the ultra sound. We had to wait and wait and wait some more and I began to wonder exactly how many Americans had actually died from a ruptured bladder. Finally, Dr. Surrey came in and we proceeded. This was pretty quick and he asked us to met him in his office.

As we walked in his office we could feel the expectation in the air....was this gonna happen or not.....it was killing us!!!! "Well,.....your uterus is LUSH....it is exactly what I was hoping to see! Everything looks great.....lets look at the calendar and set the date!" Without thinking I said out loud "WOW MIS.....I'M A LUSH......WHO KNOW THAT WAS SOMETHING I WANTED TO BE!!!" I think Dr. Surrey blushed a little when I said that, but we all laughed and Mis and I both had tears in our eyes and lumps in our throats. It was REALLY HAPPENING!!!! Missy might really be a mom.....in a most unique way.....but a mom never the less!!!!  Yet again, this was an undefinable moment.....words are simply to weak to convey the overwhelming joy and excitement!!!

We went over the time frame and the meds protocol and calculated that our estimated transfer date would be the end of May!! That was perfect.....I would be finished with school and ready for my job as an incubator!!!! Amidst my excitement I guess I wasn't paying quite enough attention to the nurse as she explained exactly how my shots should be administered!!! Just know this is important later on in this story...really important!!!!

So I had all my scripts in hand (and there were many) and a calendar and checklist of when and how much of each med was to be used, and the technique of shot administering in my head (or so I thought) and off we went back to to hotel to celebrate this great news as well as my 36th birthday!!! Life was good!!

We flew home the next day (aka my b'day) and had to nail down the Gestational carrier/ I.P. (intended parent) contract which was required by CCRM ( which sounds easy...but come to find out not so much in the great state of Alabama)!!!! And the countdown began!!!!



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